Marketa Chodura – Godmother

Why My Child Triggered My Own Wounds… and Became My Greatest Teacher

It started around six months after I gave birth.
My baby began waking up every hour during the night — and I didn’t know why. I was exhausted, sleep-deprived, and unraveling fast. Everywhere I looked — on TV, in parenting books, or even just in conversation — babies seemed to be sleeping through the night.

The more I tried to make mine sleep, the more awake they were. The more they cried, the more anxious and angry I became.
I just wanted to sleep.
We were caught in a spiraling loop of tension, exhaustion, and guilt.

Then, one night, I snapped. I yelled at my 8-month-old:
“Why won’t you just sleep?!”

But of course, it wasn’t about them.

That moment cracked something open in me.
What surfaced was fear — fear that I was doing something wrong, that I was a terrible mother.
Beneath that? A deep, unresolved wound from my own childhood — a story I’d carried for decades: me, a toddler, falling asleep in the corner of a daycare after crying and crying… and no one coming.

As Dr. Shefali Tsabary says:

“Your child isn’t the problem. Your child is the mirror.”
And oh — what a mirror mine was.


💡 Turning the Gaze Inward

Something in me knew I had to dig deeper.
Instead of trying to fix my baby’s behavior, I started investigating my own emotional landscape. And along the way, I began learning more about children’s sleep — not through cultural expectations, but through intuition, compassion, and research.

Like an angel from heaven, I came across the book S láskou o dětském spánku.
It shifted everything for me.
I stopped asking, “What’s wrong with my baby?” and began wondering, “What does my baby need?”

That shift was the beginning of a much longer journey.


🌱 Healing, Layer by Layer

To be honest, nothing changed overnight.
Healing was — and still is — a marathon. New challenges kept arising, each one an invitation to grow deeper.

At that time, I used what was available: psychotherapy, meditation, Chinese medicine, craniosacral therapy.
Then came RTT — and everything accelerated.
I suddenly had tools to reach the subconscious roots of my wounds.

Later, energy healing entered my life.
And with it came a new level of depth, speed, and clarity — not just for myself, but for my child too.


👶 My Child, My Mirror, My Teacher

My child became my greatest teacher.
They showed me what wasn’t working.
They revealed where I was still programmed, still running on outdated beliefs.
They pushed me — lovingly, fiercely — into humility.

I had to soften.
I had to break down my ego.
I had to be open to the unknown.


💬 An Invitation to You

If you’re being triggered, you’re not failing.
You’re being invited.

It’s not a flaw to be triggered — it’s an opportunity.
To heal. To learn. To grow.
You can reparent yourself while parenting your child.

Some of our hardest moments brought us the deepest growth.
They helped us build something beautiful: a true connection, a real openness.

And in the process, I discovered my purpose —
to guide other families on their own journeys.

So I ask you:What is your child trying to show you?
Take a moment. Reflect. Journal.
Or share in the comments. And if you’d like to go deeper, I’m here.